Sunday, February 8, 2009

Catherine Ingram

I'm taking James Baraz's course Awakening Joy.

Thanks to it, I've been introduced to Catherine Ingram and her work. Here's an exerpt from one of her books. I love it, and want to share it. So, here:


"Except ye become as little children

Ye shall not enter the kingdom of heaven."


On the last day of one of our silent retreats a man spoke about the parting words he had heard from his girlfriend before leaving her the week before. "Now, don't you go and fall in love with someone there," she told him. The man looked around at the group of sixty and said, "How am I going to explain that I fell in love with everyone?" I assured him that his girlfriend probably wouldn't mind that as much.

One of the great gifts of my life comes from witnessing what happens in silent retreats. Participants, many of them strangers to each other, come together and, with the exception of two hour-long group sessions per day, are silent for a week. They are given no spiritual practice or instructions but are encouraged instead to rest as much as needed and to notice throughout the day the clear awareness to which no thought ever sticks.

Day by day, joyousness and surprising bursts of energy infect the participants as they feel the naturalness of being awake and sharing companionship without the stories and ego presentations that usually make up society. People will frequently describe feelings that are familiar from childhood such as waking up in the day and feeling excited for no particular reason. We refer to this as causeless joy or the pure joy of existence. It is sometimes experienced as a current that flows inside, like champagne bubbles of well-being.

The feeling of well-being emerges from our natural condition of innocence. In awakened awareness, the clear perception through which we regard the world is renewed each moment. We are no longer mentally dragging around the hardened crust of history about ourselves or having to wear the weighty armoring of self-importance.

I once spent a couple days on the island of Lanai in Hawaii at an exclusive resort that often attracts guests who are titans of industry. One day I was walking on a path down to the ocean and an older man passed me. I immediately sensed an imperious attitude in his purposeful march and his cheerless determined face that seemed carved out of stone. We looked each other in the eye, and a chill wind blew through my soul. I was reminded once again of the burden of thinking of oneself as somebody in the world, someone with power over others. I felt compassion for the man because, despite whatever wealth he had accumulated, I sensed only his impoverishment at missing what I consider the best of life. If one is not in touch with one's innocence, there is no heaven to be found, even in the most beautiful places on earth.

The most consistent characteristic of awakened teachers and people I have met is a childlike nature. They laugh, cry, twinkle, and joke, all with a spontaneity born of freedom. Their faces are fluid and reflect a timeless sweetness, even into old age. Poonjaji, a model of dignity into his eighties, could be at times downright goofy--and we loved it. He also exhibited a free-flowing range of emotions. On my first visit to meet him I noticed that almost every day he would laugh and cry several times during gatherings with students. Sometimes his tears would come from the happiness of seeing a person release a long held burden; sometimes he would cry with someone who had suffered a loss. As with a child, feelings would pass through him and be gone as quickly as they had come, leaving no lingering mood behind.

We all love the innocence we see in children. We delight in watching them learn new things and play in wild abandon. We love to hear their questions and reflections about the world because they spring from original awareness and the brilliance that obtains. We wistfully watch them sleeping and remember that feeling of perfect peace. We delight in the company of children because they remind us of our own innocence.

But in awakened awareness, innocence is no longer the special province of children. We, too, delight in learning new things and playing in abandon; our original awareness questions and reflects in brilliance; and we, too, sleep in deep peace. Innocence is a condition not dependent on age but on attitude. It lives in continual surprise, not knowing how things are supposed to go, not needing them to go a certain way.

--Catherine Ingram

from her book Passionate Presence


Delwyn said...

Dan: This is a lovely excerpt. Thank you for posting it. I am going to look out for Catherine Ingram's book.
I surmise that you are enjoying the course then?

Mr. Kinder said...

Yes, I am loving the class. Some of it is review. For example, the suggestions to meditate, sing, exercise regularly, get a gratitude buddy, and set an intention to incline your mind towards happiness: all these suggestions are already in place in my life.

Having said that, I CAN say I know from direct experience that these things are efficacious in producing happiness and joy.

I have met a lot of the presenters at various retreats, too. James was my mentor at one retreat. But I expect to learn from the speakers who I haven't come across yet. So I'm happy to be part of the class and to reinforce the things I'm already doing and hopefully learn a few new tricks, too.

Katherine said...

I wish there were silent retreats in NZ. Are there any, do you think Dan? I wanted to go on one (for the first time in my life) about this time last year. But I couldn't find one...

Mr. Kinder said...

I think she's coming to NZ in March, March 30. You can check her website:

Katherine said...

I've had a look online. Seems there are a number of Christian ones about the place, and a yoga-based one in Taupo and Rotorua... Both these last are nearby.

Mr. Kinder said...

Well, I hope you find one to do. Going on retreat is a special treat unlike anything I know. It's such a relief NOT to talk and to spend some time listening--becoming truly intimate with--your own thoughts. It's amazing what you discover.

lisa lind said...

Loved this blog! Thanks for sharing her work! :o)