Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Gratitude: Whine Country

Okay, this wasn't the best of days for me. I'm not feeling immediately grateful. Reviewing the day, these events come most immediately to mind (call the whaamubulance!):

My neck aches. I wonder if blogging is getting out-of-control. At lunch, one of the kids in kindergarten did #2 in his pants. We had a longish staff meeting; I was the only male in a room of 15 or staffers; I felt lonely, frankly. There was rather disappointing news waiting for my wife on the answering machine when I got home. Sniffles and a headache suggest to me that I may be coming down with a virus that's been going around....

Grateful? Well, let's see...I'll have to dig a bit.

  • the Awakening Joy course materials for March arrived in my email box;
  • a package from LLBean arrived today;
  • there's aspirin for my headache.

16 comments:

Culmom37 said...

I am so sorry that you had a "not so nice" day. Just wanted to post a quick note so that you know that I am still here reading daily! You are very inspirational and I get a lot of motivation from reading your blogs.

I wish you a much better Thursday and I hope you are not coming down with the virus that is going around. Also, I hope Sarah is okay after receiving her message.

Sarah Lulu said...

Wishing you well my new friend Dan.

I sometimes think we if have some slightly off days it enables us to be more grateful rather than ..blase.

Delwyn said...

I wish you a speedy recovery from your malaise,

and kind thoughts for Sarah too.

3 things to feel grateful for today are:

a wandering dog who comes home

a country relatively free of violence

a day at home

Butler and Bagman said...

Three things to be grateful for in an otherwise lousy day...you're really good at this!

lisa lind said...

*dialing whine whone whone* Sure hope this day is better for you. Soup, crackers and some rest may be needed.

lisa lind said...

had to come back and just say my initial few words were directed playfully at your 'whaambulance'...nothing more nothing less and definitely not meant to ridicule your thoughts. have a great day!

Katherine said...

Sending healthy and healing thoughts from New Zealand to you Dan.

Alden said...

I think Dan that you need to realise that sometimes you can be grateful that you don't have to be grateful all the time!!!!! If you need a rule to guide you, let me refer you to rule number 57A subclause 9c of the Grateful Dilemma Rule from the AldenAlmanac quoting here from the original text - "Sometimes you may feel like absolute Crap and in this situation there is no compulsion to be grateful for anything, in fact it is encumbent on your to express your humanity and moan a little that is an order thankyou very much."

I use the AldenAlmanac often - it's very useful :-)

Dan Gurney said...

Culmom, thank you. I've noticed your absence from commenting and wondered if you still were reading. Glad to hear from you. My Thursday was better.

Dan Gurney said...

Delwyn, thanks for your wishes. A day at home is sure nice sometimes.

Dan Gurney said...

Lisa Lind, welcome to mindful heart. I understood your comment to be sympathetic. Thanks for leaving a comment.

Dan Gurney said...

Katherine, thank you for the get well wishes from New Zealand. I'm not feeling much better, nor much worse virus-wise.

Dan Gurney said...

Alden, thank you for AldenAlmanac Rule. Very helpful.

Truth be told, I don't feel grateful all the time. Gratitude is something I try to cultivate and increase in my life--and give expression to here.

Reality is, I experience aversive thought and feeling a lot of the time, same as everyone else, I guess.

I do not try to suppress negative feelings. (A long history of doing that taught me--the painful way--of the futility of that approach.

Instead, I find it most helpful to simply acknowledge negative feelings and investigate them. "Hi, there, anger! You're making my arms stiff. What's up? Etc."

Usually, not always, the investigation gives me some insight into the negative feelings and that insight gives me some way to work with it. If nothing else, hanging out with my negative feelings gives me the opportunity to notice if I'm cultivating negativity and quit doing that. Cherishing my reasons for being angry is not helpful, that's for sure.

And, turning my mind towards gratitude at the end of each day, good or bad, has proved to be quite helpful in awakening joy.

Dan Gurney said...

Butler and Bagman, thanks. I've noticed that practicing gratitude has strengthened my gratitude muscles a bit. It's a lot like going to the gym: I get out of the practice what I put into it. Now that I've noticed that, I want to go to the gratitude gym more often.

Dan Gurney said...

And Sarah Lulu, you're so right. The "bad" days give context and meaning to the "good" days. Truth be told, we have only moments of agreeable, neutral, or disagreeable feelings.

Butler and Bagman said...

I also wonder if blogging is getting out of control...why am I wondering? Of course it is. And I'm commenting on it in your blog and probably will then blog about blogging in my blog...Yep. Maybe a little out of control.