Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Giving Up an Addiction
I'd like to add this observation:
I’ve observed that blogging creates a sense of connection and community with people we've never met, and, let's admit it, folks, probably never will meet. I've met some wonderful, wonderful, people online, and I will continue to look in on their blogs and feel warm and fuzzy about them. However....
Not one of your blogging friends is likely to visit you in the hospital, come to your birthday party, go hiking with you, or have you over for dinner Saturday night.
Because blogging does not satisfy our actual need for social contact, it gets addictive. Much as M&Ms get addictive because they seem to provide nourishment without actually providing much beyond but empty calories. Much as alcohol gets addictive by seeming to provide relief from our troubles while actually increasing them.
I heard a supposedly true story of a blogger in NYC. He had more than 800 followers in New York and was a blogger of note online.
He spent so much time with his computer that his real friends gave up on him. Who can blame them? How much fun is a guy who’s so glued to his screen that he doesn’t have time for dinner with friends, to take a walk, etc.?
Our blogging hero got lonely and decided to invite all 800+ of his online friends to a real party. He sent out an online e-vite, rented a hall, got a caterer, whole thing.
On the night of the party, only one person showed up.
Blogging gave him a whole bunch of virtual friends, but only one actual friend.
As for this blogger, I'm not going to give up blogging entirely. From time to time, when I have something worth sharing, I may find my way to the keyboard.
I will, however, discontinue my efforts to post regularly.
I intend to live my life in actual, not virtual, reality.