Saturday, December 26, 2009

Start with Yourself




Start with yourself. And go from there.

14 comments:

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

that's it. that's all.

jinksy said...

The Beatles knew a thing or two, when they wrote 'All you need is love'...

Dan Gurney said...

Bonnie,

It's that simple. We would like it to be more complicated so there was more to chew on, but there really isn't.

Dan

Sarah Lulu said...

Yes yes yes .....I agree!!!!!!

Dan Gurney said...

Jinksy,

Yes, the Beatles--I think it was really John--did know a thing or two. Too bad he was taken away from us. He, and Mohandas, Martin, and so many others who preached the same message.

Dan

Dan Gurney said...

Sarah Lulu, good for you. This is something you not only understand, but are living out in real reality. You GO girl!

Jenny Stevning said...

Such a pure, simple message. Using Pema Chodron's words, if we could "drop below the storyline" loving everybody would be so easy. But you are right! We MUST start with ourselves!

Dan Gurney said...

Jenny, I've noticed that for many people, it can be hard to start so close... and in that case, it can be helpful to start with someone (a grandparent, a pet dog, or the Dalai Lama, or whatever) towards whom you feel strong, uncomplicated love. But once you've warmed your heart on that person, then go for numero uno.

Alden Smith said...

I think I would qualify the bumper sticker by adding the word 'appropriately' - because as C.S. Lewis teaches us there are four loves - Friendship, Eros, Affection and Agape - and all of these have a particular context in which they are expressed.
I sometimes think the word 'Love' is problematic. I think I would use the word 'Compassion' in my bumper sticker. "Show Compassion To All Sentient Beings"

Friko said...

how easy that sounds, but as you've started with "start with yourself", it's not so easy, is it?

Dan Gurney said...

Friko, exactly. That's why for many people, it's easier to start with your dog. Really.

Dan Gurney said...

Alden, we're of the same age, but for me the word "love" no longer brings up Eros for me.

Eros, from my (Buddhist) perspective isn't a form of love. It's a form of deep longing, desire, and deluded attachment. It's perhaps the near enemy of love.

Something closer to friendship and affection is what the word love brings up for me. Compassion, too, but that's more complicated because compassion arises is response to suffering. I did a post about compassion on August 29, 2009.

Ribbon said...

Excellent advice :)

best wishes
Ribbon

Dan Gurney said...

Hi, Ribbon, thanks for stopping by!